Eva Sandoval: Model Portfolio

I was watching this documentary called "Healing the inner child" It spoke about everyones "inner child"and how others/parents program you to believe certain things which ultimately shape who you are as an adult. ...One that really struck out to me was this one "Emotional Hurt"  I wanted to share with all you what Ive discovered.

Kids become emotionally hurt when:

     *They see their parents hurting each other

     *When they see their parents hurt by others

     *When parents are hurting others

     *or Parents hurting "me" (child)

That causes the child to be programmed to believe that they are vulnerable to emotional pain from other people.

This causes the small child to develop a defense system by creating an emotional shell around them.  There a WIDE variety of defense mechanism people create to protect themselfs. 2 basic categories of the system are:

1. Closing In aka Turtle Complex (hiding in the shell). Which means they create a shell around themselfs and have very little emotional contact with others despite all the friends they have. They have alot of social interactions with others but no real emotional interaction with anyone.

2. Creating an Antagonistic/ Offensive energy field. Person becomes agressive and have people fear them, so they dont have to be approached or confronted. Causes people to stay away.

Every being and creation has this "inner blueprint" Only man becomes de-programmed by society and  when it looses contact with the basic inner voice (parents). Then we start seeking for the rest of our lifes for some external answer looking for someone to tell us how we must live our life to be healthy, to be happy. 

We put people in this position because we have lost our own assurance which would allow us to follow a way of life independently, as to wether it coincides with societies concepts or not. We seek for parent images in people, it could be our spouse, friend, employer, teacher, it could be anyone. We then become afraid of doing things which are against their beliefs, their wishes THEN we become to feel supressed by them. We get into the duo relationship, we want them to tell us what to do and we feel resentment because they are telling us what to do. We feel they are suppressing us, not allowing us to live the life we want but WE are giving them that power by needing their approval and needing them to verify what were not sure about within ourselves.

This all happens because as children we are not programmed to believe in that inner voice which will guide us for the rest of our lives!

.......My conclusion is to try God and being a parent is a PERMANENT tough job!! Good Luck to all the parents out there  XO